Tag: writing

How would we live our lives, if we knew the potential we had within? Would we heal for a better future?

Healing. Noun. the process of making/becoming sound and healthy again. Why would anyone want to heal? The path is narrow, the terrains are (let’s be honest) shit. So why? To weather the storms of life with some level of comfort and assurance. I realised what I just typed sounds like the ultimate contradiction. And maybe…

December 6, 2025
Part 1: Learning to be accountable for my pain. The lessons I learnt about betrayal

This is a two part post about my understanding of betrayal. The second part, when I learn to overcome the hurt, to find healing. This topic of betrayal has been floating inside my head for quite some time, waiting to be written. I suppose now is a gooder time than any other. I ponder on…

December 4, 2025
Healing part 3: We are not our pain. The pain is our purpose

We are not our pain. In the midst of our struggles, surrounded by indescribable affliction that is yet to be understood by the mind. The heart aches. It longs for healing and understanding, so we can feel free again. Without understanding the suffering continues. The anger is palpable, seemingly with nowhere to escape. It…

October 10, 2025
The Journey to Healing Part 2: Choices and Progress

Change starts today, to make room for the progress we want to see tomorrow. It is in the small moments where we find ourselves choosing. Whether to grow or to remain. The triumphs are found in small victories. This is healing. This is growth.

September 18, 2025
Those who judge the harshest, are the most broken

Life becomes more bearable when it is understood. This is my observation of judgemental individuals and trying to understand life from their perspective.

June 5, 2025
Adult friendships: The things we rarely speak about

What if we could unlock the secret to a deeper and meaningful connection; knowing that there is a cost, would we still entertain it?

May 29, 2025
Betrayal part 1: Pain is never without a purpose

The greatest versions of ourselves are resting in places of hurt and pain. But, too many would rather carry the hurt, than to see the purpose. Yes, pain. Even betrayal has its reasons. When I met Frankie, at first sight, she would have been the ideal friend that you hope for. Helpful, seemingly kind and…

March 13, 2025
The inconvenience of “unpleasant” truths

I came across an article with a rather benign title “ideal questions to ask at a gathering” in summary, it prefaced this idea that, if we at a gathering with a “less boring” people around a dinner table, and we pick a question from a card deck; questions like: “In what ways are you a…

November 26, 2024
Navigating Friendship: Quality vs. Quantity. What is more important?

My complex has a shared garden area for the residents to use. There is also a self appointed garden committee who “looks after” the garden. The representatives, decided that it would be a good idea to have a native garden. Even though it sheds leaves like crazy and requires constant watering. The head of the…

October 15, 2024
Why is it so hard for women to not be envious of each other?

I belong to a craft hobby group. Everyone in that group is quite talented in their own way. But there was a diamond in the rough “crafter” (as I discovered). She (never mentioned) that she was a ceramicist; quite a good one at that. And the other day, Olive posted up a photo of…

September 10, 2024
Finding Peace: Embracing Flaws and Accepting Life’s Imperfections

I’d like to preface this question by saying that peace was not an overnight acquisition. It took alot of stormy days and nights in order for me to even understand the preciousness of peace. And now, back to the question. What brings me peace is to understand that all humans are flawed. That suffering is…

August 17, 2024
The Truth About Adult Friendships: Building Genuine Connections

The truth about friendships, especially in our adult life is … not what we imagine. There are plenty of essays and articles out there, talking about how to meet and make friends in our busy adult life, and many (if not almost all) focus on this idea of going out, doing activities in order to…

August 16, 2024
To us, who thought it was all to late to pursue our dreams

Life. It may not be fair, but it is just. And like the tortoise and the hare, it is never about how fast you run, but rather, how you run the race. Life … It isn’t meant to be fair. For fair is: equal. But no one human is equal to another. So fairness cannot…

June 17, 2024
Reflection: Saying goodbye to May. I’m not quite ready for June.

As May comes to an end, I reflect on the seconds, hours and days this month has bought me. Apart from the everyday things of life, pay my car insurance and all that other good stuff like: catching a cold and acquiring a lingering cough that won’t leave my body, and having people look at…

May 31, 2024
Life: Remembering the simpler times

I do remember life before the internet, but that will also mean I am admitting that I am old. Well I kinda am. I am the generation where dial up internet was a real thing. Where we had to wait ages for the internet page to load up and the pixelation was all blocky. AOL…

May 30, 2024
Life: You cannot compare & be happy

I have (for one reason or another) met people from all walks of life. Call it fate or call it something else, our paths crossed. Professions of many kinds. Even an ex special ops who taught me about box breathing. (I wonder why it’s called box breathing?) Anyway … who knew I needed to learn…

May 29, 2024
Relationship: How I come to appreciate the beauty of simplicity

There are some things that cannot be described with words, but must be felt. The way we appreciate the small gestures that our partner shows, to let us know that they care.

May 22, 2024