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How do we define “success”?
Our personal turmoil begins when we make comparisons with another individual and now sense that we have not lived up to some “expectation” and have fallen short of some sort of “success”. But how many of us have stopped to ask the fundamental question of: “What defines success to us as an independent being?” But…
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What’s something most people don’t understand?
That kindness and empathy does not come for free. Someone had to go through darkness, pushing through their own fears and insecurities, to come out the other side in one piece. For words are cheap and goodwill actions are the true character of a person whose character got broken down by life, in order for…
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Trying to catch a Bream is like chasing a dream
This is an anecdote about reverse engineering our thoughts to achieve the dreams we wish to achieve. _______________________ There can be no growth, no innovative thoughts or creativity when we choose to have fixated thinking. For static thinking relies on our past disappointment or success to confirm our present and future outcomes. Placing expectations on…
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What experience helped me grow the most?
Kindness. Because, genuine kindness showed me the other side of humanity and gives hope for a better world. To know that there are people who have been hard and gone through their own trials to know that – sometimes, another human needs a helping hand without (potentially) benefitting from you. This is grace, I don’t…
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Does keeping the peace, really bring the harmony we seek?
This post is about family and keeping the peace. The mind and the body are more closely connected than we care to believe. The body does not truly forget about the past. ___________________________ I come from a culture and country where keeping the peace is taken to the enth degree, putting the UN to shame.…
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How would we live our lives, if we knew the potential we had within? Would we heal for a better future?
Healing. Noun. the process of making/becoming sound and healthy again. Why would anyone want to heal? The path is narrow, the terrains are (let’s be honest) shit. So why? To weather the storms of life with some level of comfort and assurance. I realised what I just typed sounds like the ultimate contradiction. And maybe…
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Healing part 3: We are not our pain. The pain is our purpose
We are not our pain. In the midst of our struggles, surrounded by indescribable affliction that is yet to be understood by the mind. The heart aches. It longs for healing and understanding, so we can feel free again. Without understanding the suffering continues. The anger is palpable, seemingly with nowhere to escape. It…
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Healing part 1: Learning to listen to your inner voice.
“The ears may never hear, but the soul knows. Learning to listen to your inner voice” Whatever the healing looks like, or what we are trying to heal from. It is a journey. An opportunity to be honest with ourselves. That anger that is bubbling deep within from a disrespect we told ourselves that was…
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Part 2: Closure and healing happens when we make space for it.
In my earlier post, I wrote about an acquaintanceship that went awry as fast as the ingratiation itself. This is a reflective, contemplative follow up about moving forward when there is no closure, no apology. But – life must still go on. It’s an absolute must. All I was left with was the question of:…
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Betrayal part 1: Pain is never without a purpose
The greatest versions of ourselves are resting in places of hurt and pain. But, too many would rather carry the hurt, than to see the purpose. Yes, pain. Even betrayal has its reasons. When I met Frankie, at first sight, she would have been the ideal friend that you hope for. Helpful, seemingly kind and…
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Navigating Friendship: Quality vs. Quantity. What is more important?
My complex has a shared garden area for the residents to use. There is also a self appointed garden committee who “looks after” the garden. The representatives, decided that it would be a good idea to have a native garden. Even though it sheds leaves like crazy and requires constant watering. The head of the…
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Empathy part 1: Why being empathetic is expensive?
Empathy Noun. the ability to understand and share other’s feelings. True empathy feels like a warm hug. It almost does not matter where it comes from. The soul knows when the heart is being genuine. It makes life worth living when we know that someone understands us. The thing is, too many people pretend to…
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Good leaders have great vision
I don’t think about leadership or being a leader. What’s the point and purpose in leading someone? There must be a greater purpose to leadership other than a title to boss people around. Because, that is not true leadership; that is autocracy. There is a difference. Good leaders are also excellent individual contributors. They know…
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The Power of Choice: Embracing Growth Over Comfort
I write essays about human connection, hope and finding healing. All of my essays are either found by existing and experiencing life for all that it is. Or they have been inspired by connections and conversations. Why the path of least resistance is so alluring Each and everyone of us on God’s green earth would…
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Finding Peace: Embracing Flaws and Accepting Life’s Imperfections
I’d like to preface this question by saying that peace was not an overnight acquisition. It took alot of stormy days and nights in order for me to even understand the preciousness of peace. And now, back to the question. What brings me peace is to understand that all humans are flawed. That suffering is…
A ruminating Heart 