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Adult friendships: The things we rarely speak about
What if we could unlock the secret to a deeper and meaningful connection; knowing that there is a cost, would we still entertain it?
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Part 2: Closure and healing happens when we make space for it.
In my earlier post, I wrote about an acquaintanceship that went awry as fast as the ingratiation itself. This is a reflective, contemplative follow up about moving forward when there is no closure, no apology. But – life must still go on. It’s an absolute must. All I was left with was the question of:…
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Betrayal part 1: Pain is never without a purpose
The greatest versions of ourselves are resting in places of hurt and pain. But, too many would rather carry the hurt, than to see the purpose. Yes, pain. Even betrayal has its reasons. When I met Frankie, at first sight, she would have been the ideal friend that you hope for. Helpful, seemingly kind and…
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The inconvenience of “unpleasant” truths
I came across an article with a rather benign title “ideal questions to ask at a gathering” in summary, it prefaced this idea that, if we at a gathering with a “less boring” people around a dinner table, and we pick a question from a card deck; questions like: “In what ways are you a…
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Navigating Friendship: Quality vs. Quantity. What is more important?
My complex has a shared garden area for the residents to use. There is also a self appointed garden committee who “looks after” the garden. The representatives, decided that it would be a good idea to have a native garden. Even though it sheds leaves like crazy and requires constant watering. The head of the…
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Good leaders have great vision
I don’t think about leadership or being a leader. What’s the point and purpose in leading someone? There must be a greater purpose to leadership other than a title to boss people around. Because, that is not true leadership; that is autocracy. There is a difference. Good leaders are also excellent individual contributors. They know…
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The Truth About Adult Friendships: Building Genuine Connections
The truth about friendships, especially in our adult life is … not what we imagine. There are plenty of essays and articles out there, talking about how to meet and make friends in our busy adult life, and many (if not almost all) focus on this idea of going out, doing activities in order to…
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The power of human connection.
“Everybody has a story” This is the essence of the human connection. The shared experience and relatability. At the core of my blog, I want the reader/ a reader to experience the “human connection”. And whilst it is not optimal as an in person connection, it is still a connection nevertheless. I wholeheartedly believe that…
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Reflection: Saying goodbye to May. I’m not quite ready for June.
As May comes to an end, I reflect on the seconds, hours and days this month has bought me. Apart from the everyday things of life, pay my car insurance and all that other good stuff like: catching a cold and acquiring a lingering cough that won’t leave my body, and having people look at…
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Life: You cannot compare & be happy
I have (for one reason or another) met people from all walks of life. Call it fate or call it something else, our paths crossed. Professions of many kinds. Even an ex special ops who taught me about box breathing. (I wonder why it’s called box breathing?) Anyway … who knew I needed to learn…
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Relationship: How I come to appreciate the beauty of simplicity
There are some things that cannot be described with words, but must be felt. The way we appreciate the small gestures that our partner shows, to let us know that they care.
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What would you do, If you knew the relationship you are in, has run its course? This is the story about risk.
What would you do, if you knew that your relationship has run its course? Would you continue, because it is easier? Or would you risk it for something unknown, that could possibly be great for the soul?
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An open heart letter: A short prose about love that has weathered the storm
This is a prose about love and learning to weather the storm with the one you love. It takes challenges to make that love stronger, when it is forged; it is also strengthened.
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Relationship: If you love someone, never go to the supermarket together
When we’re single, there is always a romantic notion attached to the ideals of coupledom, and all the things we could do as a couple. Neglecting the mundaneness of life … Catching up with paired up friend/s, and them … showing wonderful holiday snaps (fuels) a tinge of envy that we are not at that…
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Forgiveness comes from a place of understanding
If you can’t do it for them, do it for you. Don’t wait to forgive. The time on earth is finite. Why are we holding a grudge? Is it because we feel entitled to it? At what cost are we paying? We never consider the hidden cost of unforgiveness. Or the fact that we ……
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Does keeping the peace, really bring the harmony we seek?
This post is about family and keeping the peace. The mind and the body are more closely connected than we care to believe. The body does not truly forget about the past. ___________________________ I come from a culture and country where keeping the peace is taken to the enth degree, putting the UN to shame.…
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Forgiveness comes when there is understanding.
If you can’t do it for them, do it for you. Don’t wait to forgive. The time on earth is finite. Why are we holding a grudge? Is it because we feel entitled to it? At what cost are you paying? We never consider the hidden cost of unforgiveness. Or the fact that we ……
A ruminating Heart 