Tag: life

How would we live our lives, if we knew the potential we had within? Would we heal for a better future?

Healing. Noun. the process of making/becoming sound and healthy again. Why would anyone want to heal? The path is narrow, the terrains are (let’s be honest) shit. So why? To weather the storms of life with some level of comfort and assurance. I realised what I just typed sounds like the ultimate contradiction. And maybe…

December 6, 2025
Part 1: Learning to be accountable for my pain. The lessons I learnt about betrayal

This is a two part post about my understanding of betrayal. The second part, when I learn to overcome the hurt, to find healing. This topic of betrayal has been floating inside my head for quite some time, waiting to be written. I suppose now is a gooder time than any other. I ponder on…

December 4, 2025
Healing part 3: We are not our pain. The pain is our purpose

We are not our pain. In the midst of our struggles, surrounded by indescribable affliction that is yet to be understood by the mind. The heart aches. It longs for healing and understanding, so we can feel free again. Without understanding the suffering continues. The anger is palpable, seemingly with nowhere to escape. It…

October 10, 2025
The Journey to Healing Part 2: Choices and Progress

Change starts today, to make room for the progress we want to see tomorrow. It is in the small moments where we find ourselves choosing. Whether to grow or to remain. The triumphs are found in small victories. This is healing. This is growth.

September 18, 2025
Healing part 1: Learning to listen to your inner voice.

“The ears may never hear, but the soul knows. Learning to listen to your inner voice” Whatever the healing looks like, or what we are trying to heal from. It is a journey. An opportunity to be honest with ourselves. That anger that is bubbling deep within from a disrespect we told ourselves that was…

September 2, 2025
Those who judge the harshest, are the most broken

Life becomes more bearable when it is understood. This is my observation of judgemental individuals and trying to understand life from their perspective.

June 5, 2025
Adult friendships: The things we rarely speak about

What if we could unlock the secret to a deeper and meaningful connection; knowing that there is a cost, would we still entertain it?

May 29, 2025
Part 2: Closure and healing happens when we make space for it.

In my earlier post, I wrote about an acquaintanceship that went awry as fast as the ingratiation itself. This is a reflective, contemplative follow up about moving forward when there is no closure, no apology. But – life must still go on. It’s an absolute must. All I was left with was the question of:…

May 23, 2025
Betrayal part 1: Pain is never without a purpose

The greatest versions of ourselves are resting in places of hurt and pain. But, too many would rather carry the hurt, than to see the purpose. Yes, pain. Even betrayal has its reasons. When I met Frankie, at first sight, she would have been the ideal friend that you hope for. Helpful, seemingly kind and…

March 13, 2025
Navigating Friendship: Quality vs. Quantity. What is more important?

My complex has a shared garden area for the residents to use. There is also a self appointed garden committee who “looks after” the garden. The representatives, decided that it would be a good idea to have a native garden. Even though it sheds leaves like crazy and requires constant watering. The head of the…

October 15, 2024
Why is it so hard for women to not be envious of each other?

I belong to a craft hobby group. Everyone in that group is quite talented in their own way. But there was a diamond in the rough “crafter” (as I discovered). She (never mentioned) that she was a ceramicist; quite a good one at that. And the other day, Olive posted up a photo of…

September 10, 2024
The Power of Choice: Embracing Growth Over Comfort

I write essays about human connection, hope and finding healing. All of my essays are either found by existing and experiencing life for all that it is. Or they have been inspired by connections and conversations. Why the path of least resistance is so alluring Each and everyone of us on God’s green earth would…

September 2, 2024
To us, who thought it was all to late to pursue our dreams

Life. It may not be fair, but it is just. And like the tortoise and the hare, it is never about how fast you run, but rather, how you run the race. Life … It isn’t meant to be fair. For fair is: equal. But no one human is equal to another. So fairness cannot…

June 17, 2024
Life: Remembering the simpler times

I do remember life before the internet, but that will also mean I am admitting that I am old. Well I kinda am. I am the generation where dial up internet was a real thing. Where we had to wait ages for the internet page to load up and the pixelation was all blocky. AOL…

May 30, 2024
Life: You cannot compare & be happy

I have (for one reason or another) met people from all walks of life. Call it fate or call it something else, our paths crossed. Professions of many kinds. Even an ex special ops who taught me about box breathing. (I wonder why it’s called box breathing?) Anyway … who knew I needed to learn…

May 29, 2024
Relationship: How I come to appreciate the beauty of simplicity

There are some things that cannot be described with words, but must be felt. The way we appreciate the small gestures that our partner shows, to let us know that they care.

May 22, 2024
With a thankful heart: To all my readers of this blog …

This is a thank you post to all my readers. You have helped me reach a small, but significant milestone that I never thought I could reach. With that said; a thankful heart.

May 8, 2024