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How would we live our lives, if we knew the potential we had within? Would we heal for a better future?
Healing. Noun. the process of making/becoming sound and healthy again. Why would anyone want to heal? The path is narrow, the terrains are (let’s be honest) shit. So why? To weather the storms of life with some level of comfort and assurance. I realised what I just typed sounds like the ultimate contradiction. And maybe…
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Part 1: Learning to be accountable for my pain. The lessons I learnt about betrayal
This is a two part post about my understanding of betrayal. The second part, when I learn to overcome the hurt, to find healing. This topic of betrayal has been floating inside my head for quite some time, waiting to be written. I suppose now is a gooder time than any other. I ponder on…
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The Journey to Healing Part 2: Choices and Progress
Change starts today, to make room for the progress we want to see tomorrow. It is in the small moments where we find ourselves choosing. Whether to grow or to remain. The triumphs are found in small victories. This is healing. This is growth.
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Healing part 1: Learning to listen to your inner voice.
“The ears may never hear, but the soul knows. Learning to listen to your inner voice” Whatever the healing looks like, or what we are trying to heal from. It is a journey. An opportunity to be honest with ourselves. That anger that is bubbling deep within from a disrespect we told ourselves that was…
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Those who judge the harshest, are the most broken
Life becomes more bearable when it is understood. This is my observation of judgemental individuals and trying to understand life from their perspective.
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Adult friendships: The things we rarely speak about
What if we could unlock the secret to a deeper and meaningful connection; knowing that there is a cost, would we still entertain it?
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Part 2: Closure and healing happens when we make space for it.
In my earlier post, I wrote about an acquaintanceship that went awry as fast as the ingratiation itself. This is a reflective, contemplative follow up about moving forward when there is no closure, no apology. But – life must still go on. It’s an absolute must. All I was left with was the question of:…
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Betrayal part 1: Pain is never without a purpose
The greatest versions of ourselves are resting in places of hurt and pain. But, too many would rather carry the hurt, than to see the purpose. Yes, pain. Even betrayal has its reasons. When I met Frankie, at first sight, she would have been the ideal friend that you hope for. Helpful, seemingly kind and…
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The inconvenience of “unpleasant” truths
I came across an article with a rather benign title “ideal questions to ask at a gathering” in summary, it prefaced this idea that, if we at a gathering with a “less boring” people around a dinner table, and we pick a question from a card deck; questions like: “In what ways are you a…
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Why is it so hard for women to not be envious of each other?
I belong to a craft hobby group. Everyone in that group is quite talented in their own way. But there was a diamond in the rough “crafter” (as I discovered). She (never mentioned) that she was a ceramicist; quite a good one at that. And the other day, Olive posted up a photo of…
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Empathy part 1: Why being empathetic is expensive?
Empathy Noun. the ability to understand and share other’s feelings. True empathy feels like a warm hug. It almost does not matter where it comes from. The soul knows when the heart is being genuine. It makes life worth living when we know that someone understands us. The thing is, too many people pretend to…
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Good leaders have great vision
I don’t think about leadership or being a leader. What’s the point and purpose in leading someone? There must be a greater purpose to leadership other than a title to boss people around. Because, that is not true leadership; that is autocracy. There is a difference. Good leaders are also excellent individual contributors. They know…
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The Power of Choice: Embracing Growth Over Comfort
I write essays about human connection, hope and finding healing. All of my essays are either found by existing and experiencing life for all that it is. Or they have been inspired by connections and conversations. Why the path of least resistance is so alluring Each and everyone of us on God’s green earth would…
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Finding Peace: Embracing Flaws and Accepting Life’s Imperfections
I’d like to preface this question by saying that peace was not an overnight acquisition. It took alot of stormy days and nights in order for me to even understand the preciousness of peace. And now, back to the question. What brings me peace is to understand that all humans are flawed. That suffering is…
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The Truth About Adult Friendships: Building Genuine Connections
The truth about friendships, especially in our adult life is … not what we imagine. There are plenty of essays and articles out there, talking about how to meet and make friends in our busy adult life, and many (if not almost all) focus on this idea of going out, doing activities in order to…
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The power of human connection.
“Everybody has a story” This is the essence of the human connection. The shared experience and relatability. At the core of my blog, I want the reader/ a reader to experience the “human connection”. And whilst it is not optimal as an in person connection, it is still a connection nevertheless. I wholeheartedly believe that…
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To us, who thought it was all to late to pursue our dreams
Life. It may not be fair, but it is just. And like the tortoise and the hare, it is never about how fast you run, but rather, how you run the race. Life … It isn’t meant to be fair. For fair is: equal. But no one human is equal to another. So fairness cannot…
A ruminating Heart 