A ruminating Heart

Which animal would you compare yourself to, and why?

A bird. Specifically a parrotlet. Too curious for my own good and find myself in situations that a prudent person would know to steer clear of. So let me give you a brief back story. The photo is my pet bird Otis (the blue one) and he is far too curious for his own good,…

March 10, 2024
Trying to catch a Bream is like chasing a dream

This is an anecdote about reverse engineering our thoughts to achieve the dreams we wish to achieve. _______________________ There can be no growth, no innovative thoughts or creativity when we choose to have fixated thinking. For static thinking relies on our past disappointment or success to confirm our present and future outcomes. Placing expectations on…

March 7, 2024
Relationship: If you love someone, never go to the supermarket together

When we’re single, there is always a romantic notion attached to the ideals of coupledom, and all the things we could do as a couple. Neglecting the mundaneness of life … Catching up with paired up friend/s, and them … showing wonderful holiday snaps (fuels) a tinge of envy that we are not at that…

March 4, 2024
Forgiveness comes from a place of understanding

If you can’t do it for them, do it for you. Don’t wait to forgive. The time on earth is finite. Why are we holding a grudge? Is it because we feel entitled to it? At what cost are we paying? We never consider the hidden cost of unforgiveness. Or the fact that we ……

February 29, 2024
You can never buy back time: Live a life without regret.

“All the world’s is a stage and all the men and women are merely players” – As you like it (Shakespeare) Don’t waste time on things we cannot not go back and change. Start anew. Turn a new page. This time around, do it better. Don’t get fixated on the idea of perfection. That’s called…

February 28, 2024
What would you do if you weren’t afraid. A tale of courage

What would you do if you weren’t afraid? Do that. That’s your calling. Don’t look around to see what others are doing. A footstep in the sand is never the same. It has a unique pattern, just like our spirits. Sometimes, it takes a long time to play ourselves. There is no manual on how…

February 27, 2024
A floral installation: A short tale about hope & growth

A flower does not bloom over night. Their beauty also came with many struggles. They had to fight the darkness in order to find the sun, the source of nourishment. The flower never gave up because she couldn’t see the light. She has faith. Pushing one sprout at a time. She never gave up until…

February 26, 2024
What experience helped me grow the most?

Kindness. Because, genuine kindness showed me the other side of humanity and gives hope for a better world. To know that there are people who have been hard and gone through their own trials to know that – sometimes, another human needs a helping hand without (potentially) benefitting from you. This is grace, I don’t…

February 25, 2024
Does keeping the peace, really bring the harmony we seek?

This post is about family and keeping the peace. The mind and the body are more closely connected than we care to believe. The body does not truly forget about the past. ___________________________ I come from a culture and country where keeping the peace is taken to the enth degree, putting the UN to shame.…

February 23, 2024
If I could be someone else for the day?

I don’t know, because I have spent so long searching for myself and who I am suppose to be in this ecosystem, that, given the amount of energy poured into that, I think I’d want to try to play the role of myself for a while? Maybe in another life time and in a different…

February 21, 2024
An Open heart letter: Can we talk about courage for a moment?

I used to think of courageous people as having no fear. But what I have come to discover is that, it isn’t that these people don’t possess fear. They have an inherent self belief in the things that they are trying to strive for. “Conviction is the source of courage” You see, I have never…

February 20, 2024
My partner’s Lay off omen and what I learnt supporting him through the murky times.

This is a post about what I learnt on how to support my partner during his lay off and job search during an infertile job market, and how compassion helped me see things through the eyes of the struggling.

February 19, 2024
Stay present: Don’t worry about the past. And – The future is not here yet.

Stay present. Tomorrow is not guaranteed. The future doesn’t matter. It’s not even here yet. Why worry about something that is in the distant future? Does the God of this earth even look that far ahead? Or is it just me wanting to play a bad form of the deity? Why add more worries to…

February 6, 2024
being 40 something felt like a life time away, until it wasn’t.

Discussion piece: This is a post about being in your forties and aging. I have never thought much about aging. When you are in your 20s and 30s, you feel invincible. You’re young and you have the world at your feet. Getting old feels like a million miles away. My twenties were a blur. A…

February 4, 2024
Forgiveness comes when there is understanding.

If you can’t do it for them, do it for you. Don’t wait to forgive. The time on earth is finite. Why are we holding a grudge? Is it because we feel entitled to it? At what cost are you paying? We never consider the hidden cost of unforgiveness. Or the fact that we ……

February 1, 2024