An observation:
I’ve noticed that those who judge others harshly or try to pull someone down a peg, their internal world seems to be constantly colliding with their reality.
The truth of the matter is – their refusal to accept and address what is. Rather, the narrative they tell themselves.
Being in their company can feel like standing on a glass platform that could give way at any moment.
The irony of it all is: They are oddly sensitive, vulnerable and (can be) quite tender at heart.
Despite desperately wanting to be seen and heard, the fragile self becomes a glaring wedge between what they want and how they feel. Honesty. This is strictly off the table.
They judge others harshly as a form of self preservation.
Whatever judgement is placed on you, is a mere reflection of their inner being. It is – more times than not, the insecurity speaking. It is almost as though, being in their company, you are a mere spectator to their internal upheaval. The only thing is … you get to come home with a goodie bag of b**ls**t.
Judgy individuals are broken on the inside, wishing to escape their hurt and pain. They are; an affliction upon themselves.
Whilst one is cognizant of this, accepting their verbal outburst was not part of the companionship deal. These two things need to be differentiated.
Recognising that, every decorated character that enters our lives is a learning platform for the future us.
To know and be mindful, is one step closer to acceptance, than to be left wondering why?
A ruminating Heart 