If you want to know what love is … It isn’t in the butterfly feelings or romance that sweeps you off your feet moments. It is …
Those uneventful moments like: Like – those private jokes that only the two of you get, the one that seems ridiculous to anyone outside listen in. And … The warm hug and the consoling look when your boss has been a so and so at work and you just can’t take it anymore. The feeling that makes you feel seen, and heard.
It really is – the small moments where their care and concern shows you in more ways than not that – what they say; they mean. It’s in their actions, not just their words.
They know how to set boundaries and say no when the time calls for it, because they know that … saying yes to everything, will ultimately destroy the relationship. The one that has been built on blood, sweat and earnestness. They kindly remind you that the no isn’t a no without much thought and consideration for the two of you.
It’s just that …
Tough times (no matter how hard you try to ward off) will appear in our lives, and we must be prepared for it.
That … love that wants to tell you that there will be money in the bank account to put food on the table and you can rest assured that there will be a roof over your head, because …
Saying no to you broke its little heart, but tough times are never too far away either.
Buying you the things that will bring you joy, also brings the giver joy too, but … prudence always wins the race.
Love knows what the other party wants, and what the other party needs in order to feel safe. But the action doesn’t always feel like tenderness, especially… for the recipient. Because – no is always harder to accept. For the prudence is always looking to the future to protect the one they love.
And doing what is right is never easy, nor is it fun. Yet, it must be done.
So the next time someone you love says no to you. Let’s pause for a moment and seek clarification.
What is right and what is good for the partnership will come to a point where certain decisions (the hard ones, the challenging ones) have to be made and in the short run, run the risk of offending that special someone. But saying yes, can also bring ruins. Either way … it never feels too good.
Be patient.
The good times will roll around again. And when you have weathered the storm together and come out of it in one piece … The connection you once had will be stronger and the bond; unshakable. Because … you have weathered the storm together and know what it takes to hold each other up in the midst of life’s storm.
You cannot have one without the other.
So when you find someone to endure the hardship of life with you, make sure to cherish them. They seldomly come around. You know the ones that they will still want to march forward with you, even when the rain stops and the umbrella is no longer needed.
Make sure you watch their actions, and not just their words. For it is action that speaks the most truth. Because, action requires commitment.
A ruminating Heart 