This one was not a particularly easy one to do, but it was necessary. In my last post, I wrote about forcing certain friendships to work, by never really saying no because I wanted that relationship to work.
As it turns out, it came with some really terrible outcomes (no surprises) there! I started to feel resentful. But what was worst, I had no one to blame but myself! These were lessons I had to learn and grow from it.
That didn’t entirely teach me how to apply boundaries at an early stage to prevent such feelings. It took burnout and a horrible boss to learn to say no.
It is paramount to learn to say no despite how you feel. Your mental wellbeing is worth the short burst of discomfort that comes with upsetting someone.
The feeling of being taken for granted and the mental anguish stays with us longer than letting someone down because we feel it is not within our scope to say yes.
That anger that is just bubbling beneath the surface? Yeah, that’s my boundary being crossed and my body telling me that, it is not ok!
A ruminating Heart 